Matthew Perry, the beloved actor best known for his role as Chandler Bing on “Friends”, was a man deeply enmeshed in his struggles with addiction. Revelations of his deceit about his sobriety during the promotion of his memoir and leading up to his death have been shocking, but not unexpected for those familiar with the devastating grip of addiction.

OF COURSE HE LIED. THIS IS WHAT ADDICTS DO.

It is an irrefutable fact that addiction can lead individuals to lie, often to protect their habit or to shield loved ones from the harsh realities of their struggle. It’s a symptom of the disease, not a character flaw. But it’s also important to remember that these individuals are more than their addiction, and Perry was no exception.

Instead of focusing solely on the dark side of his life, we should also shine a light on his efforts to overcome his demons. As detailed in his memoir, Perry attended 6,000 AA meetings, underwent rehab 15 times, detoxed 65 times, and spent between $7-9 million in his pursuit of sobriety. These figures are not just numbers; they represent his relentless fight against addiction.

What’s more, his experiences likely resonated with many others battling similar issues. His stories of vulnerability, shared in countless AA meetings, have undoubtedly left a lasting impact on those struggling to find their way out of the darkness. While I can’t make a similar claim about attending 6,000 meetings, I have attended my fair share in the 17.5 years I’ve been sober, one day at a time.

Would you like to know the people that make the biggest impact to me when I sit on that cold, metal chair, week after week? It’s the newcomer or the person just back from a relapse. Hell. It’s the person still in a relapse and showing up to meetings. To me, attending meetings un-sober sounds like the epitome of hell. Even if we never sat in the same church basement together, I have to believe that his shares, his stories of vulnerability impacted more than one person. So, for the love of God, can we please talk about that instead of demonizing a guy that had everything most people want in life and yet still drown alone in his hot tub?

Yes, Perry had fame and wealth, things many people aspire to. But he also had an addiction that proved even these could not guarantee happiness or peace. This is a stark reminder of the indiscriminate nature of addiction, and a call to extend empathy rather than judgment towards those grappling with it.

In recent times, the media narrative around celebrities dealing with substance use disorders has evolved. High-profile individuals in long-term recovery are using their platforms to spotlight the realities of their journeys, creating a more nuanced and compassionate dialogue around addiction.

Perry’s legacy extends beyond his acting career. His candidness about his struggles has helped to humanize the face of addiction. Moreover, his posthumous Matthew Perry Foundation offers continued support to those battling substance use disorders, demonstrating his enduring commitment to helping others.

In remembering Perry, we should honor both his achievements and his struggles. His life serves as a potent reminder that addiction does not discriminate. It is a battle fought daily by countless individuals worldwide. Perry’s enduring legacy lies not only in his iconic TV roles but also in his courage to share his struggle publicly and his relentless pursuit of sobriety.

Despite the challenges he faced, Perry never stopped trying to overcome his addiction. His journey, marked by resilience and determination, undoubtedly inspires many on their own paths to recovery. His life, though marred by addiction, was also characterized by an unwavering commitment to help others. That is the Matthew Perry we should remember.

Sources: US Weekly, US Weekly

#QUITLIT REVIEW: Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing

The Sober Curators get together to talk about Matthew Perry’s new memoir Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing, along with Perry’s interview with Diane Sawyer. As one of Friends stars in the late 1990s, Perry struggled with alcohol and opiate addiction very quietly before it took over his life. The Sober Curators, as people who have consumed a ton of “Quit-Lit” and attended countless 12-Step meetings, give their impressions of the book and Perry’s honesty in depicting the program and sober living.

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#QUITLIT: Friends, Lovers, and the BIG Terrible Thing, Memoir by Matthew Perry

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