Pregnancy, Recovery, and a Pandemic

If you would have asked me years ago if I were capable and responsible enough to bring another human into the world, the answer would have been a resounding “HELL NO.” On my best day, my biggest show of responsibility was brushing my teeth. So, the first thought when I saw the double lines on that pregnancy test was not exactly joy. Don’t get me wrong, I did cry tears of utter happiness, but my first thought was fear. Am I good enough to be a mom? Will my past mistakes bring some form of tragic karmic retribution? What if she turns out—like me? 

One of the biggest lessons I have learned in recovery is that even though I feel like the only person that has ever had certain fears or thoughts—it is never the case. So, here are some tips for dealing with the many fears that come along with being a pregnant woman who is also a recovering alcoholic. (Oh and who is also doing this in a pandemic *sheesh*)

What I’ve learned

• Give it to Your Higher Power. For the entirety of my first trimester I was terrified I would lose my baby. So much so that I refused to work out, which for me is a huge part of maintaining emotional sanity. This is a great time to work that 3rd step—hand it over to your higher power. *Insert warning: you will take the fear back and give it over again. And again. And one more time* But know at the end of the day: you can’t control what you can’t control. Don’t let fear consume you. 

• Reach out, reach out again, and then reach out some more. Know women who have kids in recovery? Of course you do. So call them. Call them when you have a question about weird pregnancy stuff (there’s a lot of it). Call them when you are scared. Did your baby just kick for the first time? Call them and share that joy, too! Just stay connected.

• Talk to a pro. Sobriety support groups like AA and NA are super great to stay connected, get outside of yourself, and be of service. They are crucial to feeling whole during pregnancy. But when dealing with specific anxieties as they relate to pregnancy, you might find yourself needing to talk to a licensed counselor or professional. I found one that specializes in prenatal and perinatal mental health, and it’s been the best decision I could have made. 

Overall, this experience has taught me to not let my fear outshine my joy. But in those moments when I start to feel nervous, all I need to do is reach for my phone. The connections I have made gently remind me that I am not alone. 

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